Monday, 8 July 2019

Planning is a walk in the park (well, nature reserve)

Today I had the pleasure of attending a planning away day with Amy and Annie in Rhuddlan. I regaled them with tales of databases and advertisement packs. I've never had a more enthralled audience. They asked lots of interesting questions and left full of wizardry joys. Or not! 

Seriously, it was good to take some time out and reflect on where we are at as individuals and a group. It's easy for life to overtake us, making time can be missed. When is the last time you took time to reflect?

Annie showed us the local nature reserve after our meeting, it was great to see a new part of Wales. I love finding new things - it's a really nice walk if you are nearby. I've put the link at the top of the page. 

Annie and Amy at the reserve.

There once was an ugly duckling...

This part of the reserve is great for dog walking!

Apart from 'thistle' we didn't know what this plant was called. Any budding David Bellamys out there?

Friday, 28 June 2019

The sun is are the KIM 4 Him vols

A beautiful sunny day at the Hub in Holywell.

Our male volunteers were out again today...the amazing people that give their time to support KIM (rain or shine) took part in gardening and cooking at our Hub.

Alun, Tom (x2) , Bill, Matt, Shane and Gareth helped Dave with a number of tasks in the gardening including painting, grass cutting, wood chopping and watering the vegetables and flowers. The garden is coming on leaps and bounds - the dedication, pride and effort everybody puts in is certainly paying off!

Alun and his mower

Jon, Dave and Neil prepared and cooked a delicious BBQ for our Community Cafe meal - 3 different chicken spices went down really well with everyone that came to eat. I think our cooks are giving Nandos a run for their money!

Jon getting the sausages ready

Nandos or KIM?

Hungry. Hungry Hipsters

Our new Volunteer co-coordinator works tirelessly alongside our existing and new volunteers from our men, women and young peoples projects to create opportunities to meet the needs of the people that come to KIM. If you would like to volunteer, or have volunteered with us and not yet met Hannah then please get in touch :) There is no limit to her creativity (go on, test her out! - sorry Hannah!!).

Hannah with Dave, Neil, Jon and Matt

Monday, 17 June 2019

New Group - "Inner Geeks" and the X-Wing battle royale!

The Force is strong with this group 

Click here to learn more about the X-Wing game and how to play.

A group of men from KIM 4 Him have started their own Monday afternoon group called "Inner Geek". They wanted a space to talk and share interests and hobbies with others. This group gives everybody the opportunity to discuss everything from F1 to Apollo 11. Anything goes!

The guys learnt the basics of X-Wing today. They had a lengthy 'battle' with the table role playing game, the Galactic Empire TIE Fighters just about destroying the Rebel Alliance X-Wing. Bad luck to one player who got shot down in the first round!

The group has been going for 2 weeks and already has activities ranging from PS4, Raspberry Pi, Chess, Top Trumps and Star Wars.

The men want to bring items in with them to share - it's great to see things we've maybe not seen for a while. It's also great for the different generations in the group to share hobbies from when they were a kid...Subbuteo is coming soon!!

Wednesday, 10 April 2019

Food, food, glorious food!

Start of the new Men's 10 week block of groups

2 cooks and 1 hinderer

Food is always a good way to bring people together. To start the new block of groups the men decided to have a working breakfast at the Hub.

Fate was trying to conspire against us as the two members of staff that were supposed to be cooking went off sick! Luckily, we adapted and overcame with Chef Jon and his willing deputy Shane stepping up to take over cooking duties.

As ever, a wonderful meal was produced and all the group enjoyed the full English experience. Unsurprisingly, the waft of bacon drew other team members from their office slumber into eating and chatting.

Dished up with the delicacy of a School Dinner Worker

Tuck in!

Tuesday, 2 April 2019

Welsh Culture visit to Conwy Castle

View from the top!

As part of the accreditation for the Welsh Language and Culture group we visited Conwy Castle

The group look happy :)
 The group enjoyed the visit welcoming the opportunity to explore the castle seeped in history.

Built in 1283 by Edward 1 Conwy Castle form part of an ‘iron ring’ of castles which were designed to quell Welsh uprisings. 

Today the castle is one of the best preserved castles in the whole of North Wales.

Tuesday, 19 February 2019

Expectation by James Aged 18


Expectation is something we all deal with all day, every day. Whether it be parents, bosses or maybe even friends. We are expected to be doing something.  The first subject of the matter I will be going into is indeed the dreaded by many, parents.

Even from birth parents have expectations from their children. While they may never admit it, they all have an image of sorts of what they wish for their child to be. My parents never told me what to be, instead letting me find my own path in my education. They had expectations of me, which helped me get the main two, English and Maths out of the way completely.  I got enough grades from my initial GSCEs to get into college. Now, college was one of the ideas thrown at me from my parents. They offered many suggestions, jobs, apprenticeships, however college was the pick for me. After which they supported me during my college years, as I went through some troubles during the first year which I wouldn’t have gotten through without their support. They’ve never had any real expectations of me, in terms of what they wanted me to actually be, rather leaving that for me to discover. However they have always had the expectation for me to succeed. To my knowledge, I have succeeded to meet their expectations.  Now it moves on to their current expectations of me in terms of career. While I want to pursue a career in creative writing, they are supporting me as much as they can to be able to live that dream of mine.

Along with parents come the next subject, Teachers and Bosses. To any youngster, teachers may as well be their bosses. Viewing what they saw as law and obeying it to the dot. In terms of behaviour I always respected my teachers, being sure to never cause trouble and for the most part I never did. Homework was another matter entirely however I always got all classwork done in time, if not sooner.  In my experience, although teachers get paid the same either way, they do their best to make sure their students are performing the best they can.  During my entire high school learning my teachers had high expectations of me, most I met in terms of grades. Then I get to sixth form. I took ICT, Health and social care, Computer aided design and Business studies. While I was able to do the tasks set for me, I began to develop some awkwardness in social situations. And since I was in a room full of other people everyday I fell behind in my work, finding myself completely unable to concentrate while surrounded by others. I was soon to fall out of said sixth form, as I was not able to keep up with the expectations that my tutors had of me. After that I joined a military training club, where I stayed for a few weeks and quite enjoyed the experience. There were quite low expectations of me as I was quite weak, however I did what I could and performed to the little expectations I had. The trainers there were able to help keep me motivated too, allowing me to push myself to the limits I had. Unfortunately due to my eczema I had to drop out, learning at the same time I was unable to join the Royal Air Force for the same reason. That was quite a big hit to my motivation as I had wanted to be that for quite some, so I chose to go down another route in the form of IT. I took a level 3 IT course at College Cambria, where there were extremely high expectations of me. For a good reason, I was able to do the work there with ease. For the first half of the year I aced everything set of me and got the highest grades achievable that was what everybody had expected of me. However soon I began to lose motivation, deciding for myself that I don’t need to pass through distinctions and could instead just pass with, well, a pass. This is where I began to once more fall behind my expectations, as my tutors had expected me to achieve distinctions in every assignment and knew I was capable of doing so. As time passed their expectations shrunk to match my work, and that is where it stayed  ever            since.

My third point is friends. Friends will always expect things of somebody, as you’ll usually fall under one category or another. I fell into a more twin category, where sometimes I was silent and anti-social, and others I was out-going and silly. As such they always expected one of the two and I found it difficult to be anything that wasn’t expected of me. I always found expectations from friends were one of my strongest motivators, as expectations from those we like, we are usually more inclined to live up to. Even online I am known as a more silly person, where those twin categories come in once more. Along with friends comes the most important expectations, self-expectation. I have always had low self-expectations, only then be decently surprised when I surpassed them. It was a great way to motivate myself as it would always give me a good feeling that I was doing well. My self-expectation for one thing however, gaming, has always been outrageously high. I needed to be the best at my favourite game for most of my life, World of Warcraft. Though recently I have stopped playing it, up until then I was a high performing player and had achieved many things that kept me going. Once I quit that, I found I that it was a boost to my life as I could focus on other things. Overall, self-expectations keeps a person going. If a person has high expectations of themselves then they will be more motivated to perform to please themselves, however those with low expectations like myself are more than happy to pass even by the barest means.

Expectations of gender are another topic of discussion that many try to avoid. While I am not exactly the most masculine male on the earth, there are certain things than men just don’t do. One of these things is talk about more personal problems. While women, in my experience, have been quite open about this subject. Men too have these problems that most try to hide, at least from other men. I’ve found that women are able to make a man bring out that side of them far easier than men can. It is expected of them that they are the ‘stronger’ of the two genders and therefore can handle their problems alone. Another problem are subtle things, such as the way the different genders walk. Typically it is assumed women walk with more of a sway than men, and that men just, well, don’t care all that much for how they walk. To add to the different expectations of gender, women are expected to wear make-up and different products to make themselves look more beautiful, while it is frowned upon for men to do the same thing. However that’s not the worst thing in the world, as men can use products such as shaving cream and are allowed beards to stylise or to simply grow out or even shave. Women are expected to shave elsewhere, such as under their arms as well as their legs. While for men it is expected to not shave those areas, and sometimes even compare how hairy it is.


Wednesday, 6 February 2019

first aid training at the hub

first aid training at the hub 

ste on the left from st johns and three dummys 

Today we had are first aid training with ste from st johns ambulance showing the group different technics on saving a persons life . Everyone who attended really enjoyed the training and we are looking forward to ste coming back again soon to do the baby and toddler training course

There was a couple of people feeling a bit anxious when they first turned up but by the end of the course there mental wellbeing had improved .

Look what we all recieved