Showing posts with label KIM 4 Him. Show all posts
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Tuesday, 10 September 2019

Article from the British Association of Social Workers (BASW) - Social worker warning on World Suicide Prevention Day


Article from the British Association of Social Workers (BASW)

Professional Social Work magazine - 10 September 2019

Getting men talking about feelings key to tackling high suicide rate

Social worker warning on World Suicide Prevention Day

Finding "spaces" for men to talk about their feelings is vital a social worker warned as new figures show middle-aged males are significantly more likely to commit suicide.
The rate per 100,000 for men aged 45-49 was 27.1 last year, compared to the UK average of 11.2 deaths per 100,000 according to the Office for National Statistics. For women of that age range the rate was 9.2 deaths.
Men of all ages were more than three times more likely to commit suicide than women with an average rate of 17.2 deaths compared to 5.4 per 100,000 for women.
There was a 14 per cent rise in all male suicides and a ten per cent rise in all female suicides.  However, the trend for both has been downward since 1981. The biggest increase in male suicides was among those aged 75 and over (up 32 per cent) and those aged 20-24 (up 31 per cent). 
Social worker Andy Matthews, who runs a project supporting men with mental health issues through activities in Wales called Kim 4 Him, said: “There is research saying men seeing services as being 'feminised' is one of the reason they don’t engage. There is also the social stigma and the perceived gender role of men. Men will often chose other coping mechanisms instead of coming forward - the main ones are drink, drugs and suicide.”
Matthews, who is carrying out a five-year PhD study looking at the gap in provision for men, added: “What I think will come from it is how we try and find those spaces where it is okay for men to have those conversations and seek the support they may need. It is that mindset which needs to change.”
Kim 4 Him has proved successful in getting men to talk about their mental wellbeing through initiatives such as a breakfast club, a "football shed" and "mancraft" which includes electronics, gadgets and photography activities. 
Claire Barcham, chair of BASW's mental health practice, policy and education group, said the current climate of uncertainty could be impacting on people's mental health and contributing to the rise in suicide seen in the ONS figures.
"The findings highlight concerns expressed by social workers in many sectors. There so many pressures on people today. Young people face concerns about their futures with changing opportunities and work patterns.
"Men face uncertainty around changing role expectations and this may particularly affect middle-aged men who can feel dislocated from the world they are living in. Social isolation plays a part too with more people living on their own."
Barcham added: "The current political turmoil around Brexit can only add to the confusion and uncertainty some people feel today.”
A minister for suicide prevention was appointed last year in England after previous Prime Minister Theresa May identified poor mental health as a “burning injustice”.
Overall, there were 6,507 suicides in the UK in 2018. Scotland had the highest rate at 16.1 per 100,000. Figures for Northern Ireland are yet to be published.
The highest regional suicide rate for men was in the North East with a rate of 20.4 per 100,000. For women it was Wales with a rate of 6.9.
Men in Wales were the second most likely to commit suicide (19.1 per 100,000), followed by men in Yorkshire and The Humber (19), the South West (17.7), the East (17.6), the North West 917), West Midlands (15.7), East Midlands (14.8), London 13.8). The South East had the lowest rate at 13.5. The biggest rate rise last year was among men Yorkshire and Humber (up 24 per cent).
Yorkshire and The Humber also had the second highest suicide rate for women (5.7) matched by the South West, followed by the East (5.4), the North East (5.2), the West Midlands (4.9), the North West (4.8), the East Midlands and the South East (4.7 each) and London (4.1).
A worrying 83 per cent increase in suicides among females aged ten to 24 and a 25 per cent rise in males of that age was reported, however figures were relatively low (3.3 and 9 per 100,000 respectively).
Nick Stripe, head of health and analysis and life events for the ONS, said: “We saw a significant increase in the rate of deaths registered as suicide last year which has changed a trend of continuous decline since 2013.
"While the exact reasons for this are unknown, the latest data show that this was largely driven by an increase among men who have continued to be most at risk of dying by suicide. In recent years, there have also been increases in the rate among young adults, with females under 25 reaching the highest rate on record for their age group.
“Looking at the overall trend since the early 80s, we are still witnessing a gradual decline in the rate of suicide for the population as a whole.”
This article is published by Professional Social work magazine which provides a platform for a range of perspectives across the social work sector. It does not necessarily reflect the views of the British Association of Social Workers.

Wednesday, 4 September 2019

Gone fishing...Part 2!

                                         
                                            Mens group fishing at the mostyn trout farm 





Matt's video from the trip


Matt and his first catch


                               Shane did such a fantastic job and caught 3 rainbow trout



             
                                   First two fish of the day caught after 15 minutes of fishing




                  Mark has been our teacher for the day and showing us the right way to do things



                                Colin and shane getting stuck in and loving the experience


                                                   Shane showing off yet another catch


    Tom's first catch was put back as it was a little one but later caught the biggest catch of the day



                                                                 Ten caught in total

                                         

                                    Stunning location and definitly worth going back again



Wednesday, 28 August 2019

There is always a Plan B.....





Not everything in life goes exactly to plan...the key is not to get too down when this happens and bounce back. A way of doing this is to have Plan B (C, D, E....) by thinking about what you are going to do and what might happen and how you can overcome setbacks. Celebrate when Plan A does work:)

Our plan B this week...we were due to take photos at Greenfield Abbey; however, the weather had other ideas and it rained cats and dogs!! Our Plan B was Plan Bacon...a bacon butty, brew, and a chat is always a winner.







Dave 'Gordon Ramsey' at the pass




Big thanks to Volunteer Jon for cooking

Tuesday, 27 August 2019

Photography session at Connah's Quay Docks




Today we traveled to the docks in Connah's Quay to take photos of the power station and road traffic bridge. We've included a few snaps below from our phones. The 'main' photos from the Canon camera will be processed and displayed at our Men's Art Gallery in the KIM Holywell Hub. 

Alun and Tim reminisced about the 'old days' of the dock and how things have changed. Photography is a great excuse to get out to somewhere new, or old, on your own or with some buddies to enjoy seeing the world a different way. Every photo tells a story and holds memories. 


Tim, Alun, Dave and Dave enjoying the view.



Some snaps walking to the docks.





Wednesday, 21 August 2019

Robin Hood lives....in Shotton

                   
                         MEN'S GROUP DOING ARCHERY AT ROWLEYS DRIVE SHOTTON 

                     
                         Andy's getting a good talking to for trying to get the apple on Dave's head

                        Andy's first time at the archery group showing the guys he's still got what it takes
                                                                       
                                                                           or not (Ed -it hit!)



                           
                            This guy really looks like a pro wonder if he's done this before (LOL)



Alun showing us his archery skills and bill letting us know ages is just a number and doing really well with the compound bow at age 71 


Tuesday, 20 August 2019

Gone fishing....



Some of the guys from the men's group enjoying a spot of fishing in Wepre Park .





Tim did incredibly well catching six in total



This was Lee's first time fishing and he caught two fish and a giant eel













This one tried to make a run for it


Tim hasn't been fishing for many years but showed the group he still has it




Bill caught 4 in total and hasn't been fishing for many years










Some random handsome guy



Caught 3




 This is one of the three





Absolutely fantastic day at the Rosie in Wepre Park very helpful friendly staff,  I would highly recommend it to anyone and open to all ages .






Tim with one of the six fish that he caught and letting us know who was boss

Friday, 19 July 2019

The chips are up!

Food and birthdays

Today, Scott (our admin and IT guru) celebrated adding another ring to the bark of his tree. I'm not saying how old he is...let's just say his car insurance (if he could drive) would have gone done a lot!!

It's easy in our busy lives to forget the important things around us so the community cafe created Scott's favourite meal for him...Don't forget that our pop up cafe is every Friday 12-2 at the Hub - the volunteers cook up some lovely home treats :)

Scott's favourite meal. Dug fresh from the KIM garden.

Afterwork celebration with Andy, Scott, Dave and Amy (she was away from the table when we took the pic!)

Tuesday, 16 July 2019

Chitty Bang Bang, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang - Men's group for car maintenance

Men's group for car maintenance 


Today the men took part in a session about car maintenance. Tim, one of the group members, is skilled with car repairs and wanted to share his knowledge with the group. He has worked closely with our group support worker, Dave, to arrange the session. He got everybody ‘hands on’ with basic car checks and shared some top tips (and potential money savers).

Everybody learnt something new about the mechanics – it was interesting to see how engines have changed over the years. Tim has a great depth of knowledge and was able to let us know how cars have developed, for example what oil types to use, spark plug types and why I don’t have a choke in my car anymore!

Thank you Tim for sharing your skills!

We always welcome the sharing of skills and knowledge in our groups – is there anything you would like to share?


P.S. Have you got that song in your head now? High, low, anywhere we go..

Preparing...


Tim showing Dave the oil checking device (insert your own joke here!)

 This engine was not built by Enzo Ferrari!


Friday, 28 June 2019

The sun is out...so are the KIM 4 Him vols


A beautiful sunny day at the Hub in Holywell.


Our male volunteers were out again today...the amazing people that give their time to support KIM (rain or shine) took part in gardening and cooking at our Hub.


Alun, Tom (x2) , Bill, Matt, Shane and Gareth helped Dave with a number of tasks in the gardening including painting, grass cutting, wood chopping and watering the vegetables and flowers. The garden is coming on leaps and bounds - the dedication, pride and effort everybody puts in is certainly paying off!


Alun and his mower



Jon, Dave and Neil prepared and cooked a delicious BBQ for our Community Cafe meal - 3 different chicken spices went down really well with everyone that came to eat. I think our cooks are giving Nandos a run for their money!


Jon getting the sausages ready


Nandos or KIM?


Hungry. Hungry Hipsters


Our new Volunteer co-coordinator works tirelessly alongside our existing and new volunteers from our men, women and young peoples projects to create opportunities to meet the needs of the people that come to KIM. If you would like to volunteer, or have volunteered with us and not yet met Hannah then please get in touch :) There is no limit to her creativity (go on, test her out! - sorry Hannah!!).


Hannah with Dave, Neil, Jon and Matt

Monday, 24 June 2019

Another photo added to our gallery


We've worked with Alun to get one of his fantastic photos developed, framed, signed and hung in our gallery space at the Hub.

Alun took this picture whilst out with a Social Links group in the Wirral. It's a lovely photo and well worth a place in our gallery.

Thank you Alun! 



Alun (R) presenting the photo to KIM's Andy

Monday, 17 June 2019

New Group - "Inner Geeks" and the X-Wing battle royale!


The Force is strong with this group 




Click here to learn more about the X-Wing game and how to play.


A group of men from KIM 4 Him have started their own Monday afternoon group called "Inner Geek". They wanted a space to talk and share interests and hobbies with others. This group gives everybody the opportunity to discuss everything from F1 to Apollo 11. Anything goes!

The guys learnt the basics of X-Wing today. They had a lengthy 'battle' with the table role playing game, the Galactic Empire TIE Fighters just about destroying the Rebel Alliance X-Wing. Bad luck to one player who got shot down in the first round!

The group has been going for 2 weeks and already has activities ranging from PS4, Raspberry Pi, Chess, Top Trumps and Star Wars.

The men want to bring items in with them to share - it's great to see things we've maybe not seen for a while. It's also great for the different generations in the group to share hobbies from when they were a kid...Subbuteo is coming soon!!


Wednesday, 10 April 2019

Food, food, glorious food!

Start of the new Men's 10 week block of groups

2 cooks and 1 hinderer

Food is always a good way to bring people together. To start the new block of groups the men decided to have a working breakfast at the Hub.

Fate was trying to conspire against us as the two members of staff that were supposed to be cooking went off sick! Luckily, we adapted and overcame with Chef Jon and his willing deputy Shane stepping up to take over cooking duties.

As ever, a wonderful meal was produced and all the group enjoyed the full English experience. Unsurprisingly, the waft of bacon drew other team members from their office slumber into eating and chatting.


Dished up with the delicacy of a School Dinner Worker




Tuck in!

Tuesday, 2 April 2019

Welsh Culture visit to Conwy Castle




View from the top!



As part of the accreditation for the Welsh Language and Culture group we visited Conwy Castle

The group look happy :)
 The group enjoyed the visit welcoming the opportunity to explore the castle seeped in history.

Built in 1283 by Edward 1 Conwy Castle form part of an ‘iron ring’ of castles which were designed to quell Welsh uprisings. 


Today the castle is one of the best preserved castles in the whole of North Wales.

Tuesday, 19 February 2019

Expectation by James Aged 18

Expectation


Expectation is something we all deal with all day, every day. Whether it be parents, bosses or maybe even friends. We are expected to be doing something.  The first subject of the matter I will be going into is indeed the dreaded by many, parents.

Even from birth parents have expectations from their children. While they may never admit it, they all have an image of sorts of what they wish for their child to be. My parents never told me what to be, instead letting me find my own path in my education. They had expectations of me, which helped me get the main two, English and Maths out of the way completely.  I got enough grades from my initial GSCEs to get into college. Now, college was one of the ideas thrown at me from my parents. They offered many suggestions, jobs, apprenticeships, however college was the pick for me. After which they supported me during my college years, as I went through some troubles during the first year which I wouldn’t have gotten through without their support. They’ve never had any real expectations of me, in terms of what they wanted me to actually be, rather leaving that for me to discover. However they have always had the expectation for me to succeed. To my knowledge, I have succeeded to meet their expectations.  Now it moves on to their current expectations of me in terms of career. While I want to pursue a career in creative writing, they are supporting me as much as they can to be able to live that dream of mine.

Along with parents come the next subject, Teachers and Bosses. To any youngster, teachers may as well be their bosses. Viewing what they saw as law and obeying it to the dot. In terms of behaviour I always respected my teachers, being sure to never cause trouble and for the most part I never did. Homework was another matter entirely however I always got all classwork done in time, if not sooner.  In my experience, although teachers get paid the same either way, they do their best to make sure their students are performing the best they can.  During my entire high school learning my teachers had high expectations of me, most I met in terms of grades. Then I get to sixth form. I took ICT, Health and social care, Computer aided design and Business studies. While I was able to do the tasks set for me, I began to develop some awkwardness in social situations. And since I was in a room full of other people everyday I fell behind in my work, finding myself completely unable to concentrate while surrounded by others. I was soon to fall out of said sixth form, as I was not able to keep up with the expectations that my tutors had of me. After that I joined a military training club, where I stayed for a few weeks and quite enjoyed the experience. There were quite low expectations of me as I was quite weak, however I did what I could and performed to the little expectations I had. The trainers there were able to help keep me motivated too, allowing me to push myself to the limits I had. Unfortunately due to my eczema I had to drop out, learning at the same time I was unable to join the Royal Air Force for the same reason. That was quite a big hit to my motivation as I had wanted to be that for quite some, so I chose to go down another route in the form of IT. I took a level 3 IT course at College Cambria, where there were extremely high expectations of me. For a good reason, I was able to do the work there with ease. For the first half of the year I aced everything set of me and got the highest grades achievable that was what everybody had expected of me. However soon I began to lose motivation, deciding for myself that I don’t need to pass through distinctions and could instead just pass with, well, a pass. This is where I began to once more fall behind my expectations, as my tutors had expected me to achieve distinctions in every assignment and knew I was capable of doing so. As time passed their expectations shrunk to match my work, and that is where it stayed  ever            since.

My third point is friends. Friends will always expect things of somebody, as you’ll usually fall under one category or another. I fell into a more twin category, where sometimes I was silent and anti-social, and others I was out-going and silly. As such they always expected one of the two and I found it difficult to be anything that wasn’t expected of me. I always found expectations from friends were one of my strongest motivators, as expectations from those we like, we are usually more inclined to live up to. Even online I am known as a more silly person, where those twin categories come in once more. Along with friends comes the most important expectations, self-expectation. I have always had low self-expectations, only then be decently surprised when I surpassed them. It was a great way to motivate myself as it would always give me a good feeling that I was doing well. My self-expectation for one thing however, gaming, has always been outrageously high. I needed to be the best at my favourite game for most of my life, World of Warcraft. Though recently I have stopped playing it, up until then I was a high performing player and had achieved many things that kept me going. Once I quit that, I found I that it was a boost to my life as I could focus on other things. Overall, self-expectations keeps a person going. If a person has high expectations of themselves then they will be more motivated to perform to please themselves, however those with low expectations like myself are more than happy to pass even by the barest means.

Expectations of gender are another topic of discussion that many try to avoid. While I am not exactly the most masculine male on the earth, there are certain things than men just don’t do. One of these things is talk about more personal problems. While women, in my experience, have been quite open about this subject. Men too have these problems that most try to hide, at least from other men. I’ve found that women are able to make a man bring out that side of them far easier than men can. It is expected of them that they are the ‘stronger’ of the two genders and therefore can handle their problems alone. Another problem are subtle things, such as the way the different genders walk. Typically it is assumed women walk with more of a sway than men, and that men just, well, don’t care all that much for how they walk. To add to the different expectations of gender, women are expected to wear make-up and different products to make themselves look more beautiful, while it is frowned upon for men to do the same thing. However that’s not the worst thing in the world, as men can use products such as shaving cream and are allowed beards to stylise or to simply grow out or even shave. Women are expected to shave elsewhere, such as under their arms as well as their legs. While for men it is expected to not shave those areas, and sometimes even compare how hairy it is.


 
 
 

Wednesday, 6 February 2019

first aid training at the hub

first aid training at the hub 



ste on the left from st johns and three dummys 


Today we had are first aid training with ste from st johns ambulance showing the group different technics on saving a persons life . Everyone who attended really enjoyed the training and we are looking forward to ste coming back again soon to do the baby and toddler training course



There was a couple of people feeling a bit anxious when they first turned up but by the end of the course there mental wellbeing had improved .

Look what we all recieved